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More Posts. The Comparison Trap Comparing ourselves to others is a direct path to unhappiness. Getting to Square One Turn anxiety into propulsion. Over and over, he drew the distinction between the desires of the flesh and the desires of the Spirit.
This interpretation made a lot of sense to me. When I fell in love with a boy when I was 19 and he was uninterested, I prayed like never before for God to change my heart, for him to strip away these emotions and remove the attraction. Months later, I was still praying that same prayer, but the time in between had riddled me with self-doubt and insecurity.
Could I? I assumed if the Lord changes my desires as I learn to love Him, there was clearly a spiritual defect in me that He was working out.
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I found through this process that too much self-reflection led to self-obsession. Delighting in God, as that verse in Psalms says, is a responsibility and gift. It is this: to know, and love, and live to God, to please Him and to be pleased in Him. Coming to this point of acceptance took a lot of work.
We have to make space for this kind of dialogue in the Church.
We have to allow room for longing, for confession, for intimacy. Part of this culture of criticism surrounding singleness comes in the implicit judgment that if a person is single later in life and by that, I mean after 25 , there must be something wrong with him or her—single for a reason, as opposed to single for a season.